Why do gay men speak the way they do?

ok, so before i start, i just want to clarify, i have NOTHING against gay's. i myself am bi-ual. but im just curios why do (some) gay guys speak the way they do, likeu know kinda like a girl... i dont kow how to explain it but you all know what im talking about right, like the stereotypical why that a gay guy would speak, im justr curios, i mean like...is it just an unfortunate coincidence..lol.. or what?